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Education is a support, promotion and educational influence on the development of the behavior of the growing person. Education includes the entirety of all educational acts, such as Personality training, the Learning about social behavior, the Embedding in the cultural rules and norms etc.

Education takes place in all cultures and societies. Upbringing can and should come from very different angles. This includes in the first place the family, i.e. the parents, grandparents, etc., but also the kindergarten, the school and other public institutions part of education.

Each parent brings up their child differently, the respective upbringing depends on what the parents were shaped by in their childhood and what experiences they have gained in their lives. Education by public persons, such as teachers, is usually provided by educators who are trained in the field of education.

The general goal of upbringing is to prepare adolescents for an independent and responsible life in society so that they can cope with the everyday challenges of life and can behave appropriately.

What means of education are there?

Educational means are actions or reactions of the parent to a behavior of the child, with the aim of influencing the child and leading it to an educational goal. The educator acts on the child and can thus consolidate or change the child's behavior.

Serve as a means of education Praise, reprimand, reminder as well as admonition or punishment etc.

With the praise or reward, the child's behavior and thus also his self-confidence is confirmed and strengthened. This has the consequence that the child shows the desired behavior more often and happily. This is a positive educational tool. Encouragement as a means of education also has a positive effect on the child's self-confidence and confirms and encourages.

Negative means of upbringing such as reprimand, admonition or punishment should lead to the child no longer showing behavior or changing it, as the educator has negative consequences for his behavior.

In addition, situations in which someone acts as a role model or in which people play, work or speak are also used as a means of education. However, these are not regarded as a direct means of education, whereby the adult acts directly on the child, but as an indirect means of education. As a result, the educator is not always aware of its effect on the child.

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What are the parenting styles?

There are different styles of parenting that have evolved throughout history and have been considered the best parenting in different times. A distinction is made between four different basic types.

This includes the authoritarian style of upbringing, the one high level of control and little parental love and has heat as a basic designation. This form of education has gone completely out of fashion in Germany these days and is viewed critically.
Furthermore, there is authoritative education (also more democratic Parenting style called), which is also a high level of parental control has, but also one high degree of love and warmth with parents taking good care of the children. This is the currently prevailing style that is considered to be the best possible upbringing.
There is also the permissive or pampering style of parenting. This is characterized by a high degree of parental love and warmth. The parents do not control the child at all, which gives them a very high degree of freedom.
This high degree of freedom and little control can also be found in neglect (rejecting) upbringing and thus in the ultimate parenting style. With this style, however, there is also the fact that the parents hardly convey love and warmth to the child, but rather one negative attitude towards the child take in.

The authoritative education

The authoritative education combines authoritarian and laissez-faire parenting styles and so represents a very common and successful style. There is a high degree of control and at the same time there is a high degree of acceptance by the child.

The child should be granted a lot of freedom, but at the same time limits and rules are set. The child has to follow the rules but should also be able to understand them, the parents try to explain it to the children in an age-appropriate manner.

If the child disregards the rules, this can lead to a punishment appropriate to the situation, but corporal punishment is prohibited in this parenting style. In addition to the clearly defined rules, the freedom of action in which the children can develop freely and live their creativity and initiative is also specified.

The child's opinion is just as important as that of the parents and is heard so that parents and children are in dialogue with each other. If the children resist the parents, the parents stick to their point of view, but try to listen to the child's side in a conversation and to find a common solution. The child grows up with a lot of parental support, emotional warmth, and love. This leads to a close relationship between parents and children.

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The anti-authoritarian education

Anti-authoritarian education is one in the 1960s- Education concept developed over the years. It pursues the idea of renouncing parental exercise of power and thus encourages the child to develop freely. In addition, self-confidence, creativity and the sense of community should be strengthened. This form of education is called Opposite pole to authoritarian education seen.

This form of education does not follow rigid guidelines, but rather rather embodies a way of life that emerged from the student movement of the 1960s. The generation that lived this concept was brought up mostly authoritarian with many compulsions and obedience.

In anti-authoritarian education the opposite is lived. The children are brought up freely, so they can decide almost everything for themselves, since a "no" from the parents almost never comes, just as there are no rules that need to be adhered to. The parents let the children decide if they have any questions or problems, so that the children can live according to the pleasure principle. These freedoms are granted to every child, regardless of age.

The anti-authoritarian education in its extreme form in today's society almost no longer exists, since it is today as judged critically becomes. This form of education can still be found in a weakened form at selected private kindergartens or schools.

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What does an intercultural education look like?

In an intercultural education, the main idea is that children should live in a heterogeneous society, So a society with people from different nations and cultures should be prepared.

In this education it is assumed that all different cultures with all their differences and similarities are of equal value and stand side by side. The basic idea that emerges from this is that the child should be taught to live together peacefully with different cultures and to treat one another respectfully. In addition, the idea is pursued that everyone can learn from the other culture and is encouraged to rethink their own point of view.

Do punishments help in education?

Punishments are popular in education and are widely used. Mostly it is not a question of a punishment in the form of physical violence, but of a psychological one, such as Withdrawal of love, additional tasks or reparations. The punishments can lead to the desired behavioral goal if certain things are observed.

The wrong behavior should be logically and temporally related to the punishment. Furthermore, the punishment should be proportionate and not arbitrary, but announced. All in all, punishments should be an exception and under no circumstances should they be used with babies or toddlers, as they cannot understand them at all and are only weakened in their self-confidence.

In addition, the positive and trusting relationship between parents and children can be damaged by punishments given to the child Offense, hatred, defiance and insecurity can arise.

In the event of a defiant reaction, the undesirable behavior that led to the punishment is not abandoned, but shown more intensely. Correspondingly, punishments in child-rearing can be counterproductive and not very beneficial.

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What is the childcare allowance?

The childcare allowance was one State benefit to mothers or fathers who temporarily give up their work to raise their children. In 2007, the parental allowance was introduced and replaced the child-raising allowance, only in Bavaria and Saxony the so-called state child-raising allowance is paid as financial support.

The parental allowance is intended to relieve the family financially if they want to devote more time to the family instead of work and is also paid by the state. Instead of a lump sum as with childcare allowance, applicants receive a percentage of what they earned before the birth of their child. Accordingly, the parental allowance is calculated individually for each household in one Money margin of at least 300 and a maximum of 1,800 euros per month and child. This money is paid for a maximum of 14 months compared to the childcare allowance and only if the partner uses at least two months of this time, so that fathers should also be more involved in the care and upbringing of the child.

The prerequisite for receiving parental allowance is that you look after and bring up the child yourself, live in the same household with the child, live in Germany and do not work at all or work a maximum of 30 hours per week during this time.

What is parental leave?

Parental leave, or today known as parental leave, enables all employees who receive parental leave to take leave to raise children in the first three years of life, i.e. up to the child's 36th month.

It is up to the parents to decide for themselves how long the parental leave should last. Furthermore, with the consent of the employer, parental leave can also be divided into two sections, but these must be determined in advance.

In the case of an adoption or taking in a child in full-time care, the right to parental leave begins as soon as the child is in the household. Often these are older children, which is why the three years are not the first three years of life, but any three years up to their eighth birthday.

Even with a normal birth it is possible, if the employer agrees, to transfer 24 weeks of parental leave, i.e. to take it to a later period up to the child's 8th birthday. In this transferred time however, unemployment insurance does not apply, this only applies to the first three years after the child is born.

Parental leave must be requested from the employer at least seven weeks in advance. During this period of parental leave, the employee may not be dismissed, exceptions are only possible in very small companies.

What are educational goals?

Raising children influences the development and behavior of the child. The children will raised from an actual state to a target state, goals play a role here. The educator wants to achieve something through his education, namely how the person to be educated should behave and act now or in the future.

This assumes that a goal has been thought through and set beforehand. Accordingly, upbringing is only meaningful and easy to implement with an educational goal, since the parent has an idea of something worth striving for.

Educational goals, which are often mentioned by parents, are a lot about values that are to be conveyed and to be lived by the child, for example Honesty, tolerance or Respect.

Such educational goals are sometimes different from the goals set in the public organized education (School, kindergarten, etc.), as these are often primarily learning goals acts.

What is the educational mandate?

In Germany, not only the parents have an educational mandate, but also the state. This means that the state has a prescribed duty to support children appropriately in their development and to lead them to come of age.

The educational mandate of the state is implemented, for example, by the teachers in the schools, and accordingly the entire school system is under state supervision. Despite the educational mandate for the parents, which shows that they have the right and the duty to care for and bring up the child, they can organize the upbringing at their own discretion.

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How do I find good parenting advice?

In bringing up children, parents go through many different phases from birth to adulthood. Each phase brings its challenges, so it is possible at any age that parents need parenting advice. A good parent advice center usually consists of an interdisciplinary team. So it is recommended that parents pay attention when searching whether the team is from different professional groups, for example Social pedagogues, social workers or psychologists composed. Most of the information in this regard can be found on the website of the advice center. In addition, you can get to know the parent counseling center of your choice better during an initial interview and thus assess whether it is an option or not. One should note whether the consultants respond to their own needs individually and whether they can make different offers depending on the situation.

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How do I find good parenting advice?

There are many different educational counseling centers, each with different providers, such as the Workers welfare, the Caritas Association or that Diaconal work. The person seeking advice has the right to freely choose a counseling center. You can find out more about advice centers near your place of residence on the Internet and contact them by telephone.

The first meeting takes place after an appointment has been made or during an open consultation. This conversation serves not only for the advice center to get to know the advice seeker and their problems, but also for the advice seeker to assess the advice center.

It is important that the advisory team includes specialists such as psychologists, social workers and social pedagogues, child and adolescent psychotherapists, doctors, pedagogues or speech therapists. Such specialists often have special additional training and further education, such as Behavioral therapy, family therapy, separation and divorce counseling or Help with abuse. This can be easily inquired about in the initial interview and is informative about the quality of the educational counseling center.

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In addition, it is important that the counseling center always invites the whole family to a meeting so that they can get a comprehensive picture of the family situation. It is then of great importance that the counseling center draws up a help plan together with the family. These are criteria for a good advice center.

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Educational assistance

A parenting assistance is usually a long-term help for children, adolescents or young adults who have problems in the family, school, with friends or with coping with everyday life. The help is also intended for parents who have problems living with their children and their upbringing.

The educational assistant is supposed to support the child or the young person in his or her personal development by helping them to cope with developmental problems. The self-confidence and the ability to relate to those in need of help should also be strengthened; this is done, among other things, by including the social environment.

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